I understand your feelings about next Sunday. Winning will be everyhing to me as well and losing does not even enter my mind.
The thing is, whilst I dislike some gooners, I like some of them. Not too many mind! I used to work with 2 great genuine Ars*nal supporters, born and bred not far from me (Potters Bar) and one of them went to the same school as a boy. Can't be all that bad, can he?
To me it's just a question of the passion passed down from a parent that makes you make a choice from a early age . My dad would die for Spurs and I dare say the same would apply for his dad. So I thank my dad and you can blame his for supporting the A*se!
This Sunday we stand as good a chance to get a result than we have for many years (on paper). But I say it again: This is Spurs and anything can happen.